Hello everyone.

I've had something on my mind of late, where I would really like other people's sincere input with their interpretations of their own experiences.

So I'm someone who regularly remembers their dreams (lucid dreamer), and at least once a week will experience a sexual dream of some form, no matter what my day to day living brings me (whether having regular sex or not). Initially my first experiences of sexual dreams (or wet dreams I guess you'd say), were from my own perspective as a female, and ordinarily quite submissive.

But as the years have gone on, I've started experiencing dreams from the perspective as still myself, but as a man (with a woman), and usually quite dominant in the scenarios. Rarely will I now experience same sex dreams, or heterosexual dreams as my own gender. I don't feel dreams have meanings or anything like that, just that they're your subconscious/conscious at play.

I've been wondering what this has to do with in regards to my own behaviours/personality. It could be a number of things:

- Does this have to do with the kind of porn I watch? (Man dominating female usually, not extreme but definite male dominance perspective and I'm remembering this in my dreams)

- Does it have to do with a change in my sexual realizations? (Initially felt I was only attracted to men, as got older it became predominantly females)

- Or does it have to do with having some frustrations that I can't experience same gender sex in the same way hetero sex works? (Meaning the act of straight sex with insertion of something is experienced physically by myself, and the male, simultaneously, as opposed to a female with her hands or mouth, whereby the experience isn't totally mutual in regards to genital stimulation, specific to that scenario)

Or am I just reading too far into it? I don't experience any form of gender identity disconnect, and am happy with how I was born.

I'm not sure, I suppose my question for people to answer is this:

Have you ever experienced this changing of gender in a wet dream? If so, do you feel it relates to anything in your subconscious desires, or it simply "just happens"?

 

Oh boy, no bites. Maybe a porn site is not the place for existential questions? Haha, figure.

 

There is already a thread on dreams.

 

Im not a psychologist so I cant tell you what this means or what triggers may have kicked these dreams off. I can tell you that I think it is fascinating and providing you are happy and balanced in both your dream state and waking state there is nothing to worry about.

I would say it is amazing that you can dream like this.

When I dream sexually it tends to involve other people rather than my partner but there are probably obvious reasons for this.

I have had one or two sexual dreams which were profoundly unsettling, not in their content but the way I felt afterwards ( it was very much like it had actually happened ) and took some days to come to terms with... I dont know it is weird but it didnt feel like a dream so I dont know what to make of it

 

I can't remember ever having dreams on sex change or transgender. What I do know that when I'm in a horny mood and keep on having watching porn and having myself horny without a release (a great feeling!) I have sexual dreams. Some are recurring, like the ones where I find out it's actually pretty easy to suck my own dick, and wonder why I never had found out before.

My recurring dreams come and go. Have had frequent dreams on being able to fly but they seem to have gone. I think it's something that's very deep in your brain, and needs to be processed again and again. Explanation of dreams is a tricky path of science though.

Just enjoy the dreams you remember in daytime. I do.

 

Dreams happen in what I feel is one of three ways some thing we desire, something we are afraid of, or something we have experienced. Granted this is not a catch all for every thing. I am sure there are other reasons but my experiences they usually relate to one these. A possibility is that you are watching a lot of dominant porn that is simular to your dreams. And you desire that role in the porn with your partner.

Granted im no therapist or psychologist but may be that helps.

 

We all dream crazy shit. When I dream about having sex, perverted or sensuous, I never try to figure them out. The only thing I have been trying to figure out, is why the fuck do I always wake up at the peak moment and can't get back to sleep ? It's so frustrating never getting to finish the dream. Now I know how my wife must feel after we have sex.

 

@archetype_x It sounds as if in your dream your playing a role unlike your actual self which is quite common and if your acting it out as a man, I would fathom to say it's clearly one in which your imagining how the "other half lives." Just as a man may wonder if he had bi sexual tendencies what are the feelings a woman who has sex with men might experience, stepping outside our machismo role for that moment. While it's not necessary to "act out" in real life the assumed roles of a man to like women or a woman to like men, our minds find comfort in letting down that boundary from a fantasy perspective which I believe opens us up to better understanding of our "straight" selves. That not every thing is as black and white as we've been programmed to believe, even biologically we are all made up of estrogen and testosterone and in reality many times we don't get enough chances to express them both due to societal pressure.

 

why would you be concerned about your dreams if indeed * you don't feel they have meaning ?* I however am superstitious .

 

Lucid dreaming and remembering what you were dreaming are very different. Most people dream in black and white, so it's more difficult to recall things. Vivid dreams are easier to remember.

A lucid dreamer is aware he is dreaming. And can sometimes control things in the dream.

What you're brain is stimulated with before sleep usually rolls over into your dreamworld. If you're watching the kind of videos you like and fall asleep soon after, it's probably that.

I think most of us have wondered what it's like to have sex as the opposite gender. I've always wondered what the female orgasm was like. At least the full body ones, and the multiples.

 

"If my thought/dreams could be seen they'd probably put my head in a guillotine..." Robert Zimmerman

 

My first thought was might have something to do with the porn you watch

 

I have. I guess it's because of my affinity to use strap ons. I used to use prescription sleep aids and anxiety meds during the holidays (bad time for me). Those often gave me bizarre dreams while using them.

 

"Last night I dreamed that I was eating a giant marshmallow, and when I woke up, my pillow was gone!"

 

Sounds like you're switching from being a sub to dom. Maybe you're into girls or you just need to put on a strapon and fuck a guy

 

There is a lot of study on dreams, and a lot of disagreement about what dreams "mean" - if anything. We are excellent rationalizing machines, and I believe we do the same with dreaming. Something happens, our brain does all kinds of work below our surface of awareness about what the event means to us, then our front brain makes up a story about the whole thing that "makes sense" based on our current set of prisms. But, what is most important is what you DO when you're awake, conscious and intent. Make your dreams mean exactly what you want them to according to your authentic self, and you'll be just fine. Good Luck.

 

I rarely dream and even rarer are they sexual dreams I do however fantasise during the day sometimes. once or twice it has got so intense my partner didnt know what hit him when he came home. Once when I was away for work I skipped the last session of the day and went to my hotel room it was fairly fast and intense

 

I used to (and actually still have) weird dreams now and then but NEVER had any sex related dream. A couple of years ago I did try to find out more about my dreams but the only conclusion I found was that I have a very lively imagination, big surprise lol, mixed with random things I experienced during the day or recent time. So basically they just didn't mean anything.

I'd say your dreams don't mean a thing if you don't feel the same irl, in my 'experience' they can be confusing but can be ignored altogether though. Maybe this doesn't apply to everyone but still, anything related to something like dreams coming true or them having a real meaning is just coincidence as far as I know or something that has already been someone's thought while being conscious.

 

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I have always thought that dreams were just your subconcious mind sorting out what that day had brought and then saying " What if I " and expanding on the themes. Don't worry about it, just enjoy and think yourself lucky that you don't get the night terrors like me. My bad dreams make horror films very tame and insipid.